What is Negative Self-Talk?
Self-talk is that “tiny voice in your head”. This is the “inside voice”, this is the way we talk to ourselves. Self-talk is our way of making sense of the world around us. It is sort of like telling a story. For example, it tells us what an event means, what it makes us think about, or what we should do.
Think of self-talk as a mental habit. Just like we have physical habits like fidgeting, or brushing our teeth before bed, we also have mental habits. Some of these are good while some are not so good. However, all self-talk has a very big impact on us. Basically, it is the way we think about things around us that can determine how feel about them. Those feelings then affect how we deal with the event. If this voice becomes too critical and negative, it can result in feelings of anxiety, stress, anger, and depression.
How to Change Negative Self -Talk
The good news is that negative self-talk – like any bad habit – can be changed. A process called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can help you first become more aware of negative self-talk and gradually move towards more positive and realistic internal conversations. CBT has been researched for decades and is proven to be a highly effective treatment for many issues including anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress disorder, eating disorders and many others.
Counselling in BC for Negative Self-Talk
At Waypoint, our counsellors have expertise in helping people manage negative self-talk. You can learn ways to identify the mental habits you have developed which are getting in the way of leading a more enjoyable life. Through guided practice, you will become more skilled at questioning those negative thoughts, and turning them upside down. You can then replace them with more positive and accurate thoughts. That will lead to healthier emotions and more productive behaviours.
Choosing a Counsellor in BC for Negative Self-Talk
Having the right “fit” with your counsellor is very important. How we manage our negative self-talk is very individual to who we are. But finding that right therapist is not easy.
If you would like support in being matched to the most suitable counsellor for your individual situation and learning style, contact us. We will provide you with personal and professional help in selecting one of our counsellors. To learn more, check out Match Me to a Therapist. If we don’t have a therapist in your community, you might want to consider e-counselling by phone or secure video link. CBT therapy provided this way is just as effective as in-person and much more convenient which can mean faster results.
Reach out now, and begin your journey to a more positive outlook on life!